Thursday, June 4, 2015

In community, part 2

Watercolor by Val Hebert, Quote from Cinderella

In my last post, I made a great deal of progress in my attempt to reconcile the discord in my own head between the NAMI approach and the AL-Anon approach towards living with someone with a co-occurring disorder, often referred to as a dual diagnosis. In fact, I wrote at length about supporting the notion of living in community with a loved one who may be mentally imbalanced and using drugs, and helping them find a way back to healthier living and integrating into society. 

Well, as things panned out- and oh yes, how they pan out when dealing with a co-occurring disorder - I might have to change up my thinking on this. Or, at least, I have to add one caveat:
When making the choice to live in community with those who suffer from a co-occurring diagnosis, it is very wise to make sure the person or people involved are stable*.  
I am not ready to talk about the whole story, but suffice it to say it involves an previously unknown mentally deranged person wielding a golf club, a stabbing, jail, lawyers and courts, charges dropped, community mobilizations, teens staying in my house and being kicked out of my house, angry nasty parents of one teen, the disillusion of the aforementioned "Community", three house moves within a six week period, and more. The drama was unbelievable. Basically, another new chapter in a book that I am somehow supposed to write. I think the book's title will be: "XXXXXXX- xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx". (I decided to hide the name because I like it, and might really need to use it one day).

Yeah... that "in community" thing? it can take down the whole damn family. And fast...

But, there is a good outcome to things that went down too. I think I will save that for the next post.

Thanks for listening,

*stable, meaning they are taking their meds, seeing their doctors, and on a positive path.


  1. Being in community with loved ones that suffer with the dual diagnosis of addiction and mental illness is messy. By the time we figure out that our loved one is NOT stable... Crisis and chaos have run ramp-id. This is where I must believe in a power greater than myself can restore me to sanity. I can reason and reason and still not come up with any. My heart is broken buy my spirit is not because it has the Holy Spirit inside to support and give me direction and wisdom. I do believe that. It takes one step at a time. We can only fill our shoes and hope that our faith and love spills over to them. Thankx for your friendship and love and encouragement. T

    1. Thank YOU, T, for if not for your friendship, WISDOM, and gentle reminders to keep our eyes on our higher power, I would be lost. Truly lost. For that is the one thing that can bring us back to sanity. I appreciate the reminder.